Thursday, 11 October 2012
What's Your Sun Sign (VIRGO MAN) - by Chetan D Narain
Practicality rules the mind of a typical Virgo male. He thinks, acts and sometimes even dreams logically. The best way to be around him is to ‘cut the fuss’. He has a repulsion for flowery language or unnecessary emotional gestures. If there’s someone who likes to travel light, it’s him. With a Virgo man, no emotional baggage please! Although emotional himself, he is not likely to understand the state of emotions in others. And when in love he needs ample of room… to be himself, to do his thing, and to take off if required.
Behind his serious expression is a mind that loves to laugh. I say mind because he likes intelligent humour and not slapstick comedy. He is knowledgeable and opinionated and shrewd enough not to let others, especially strangers, see the hand that is being dealt to him. A man who knows his mind and understands his needs – a man who frequently asks himself ‘what’s in it for me?’, that’s a typical Virgo guy.
How to identify a Virgo man?
A Virgo man is quiet and reserved, not much into initiating conversation unless spoken to. He is the type of person who would take initiative only if he has a motive. Only if you possess a hobby like mine of observing people and their behaviour will you be able to spot a Virgo man. Here again I am at a loss on how to classify Virgo men into aggressive and passive categories because I have observed that Virgo men behave aggressively only when provoked or pushed.
While in a conversation they might display interest in keeping it interactive, they usually spend time getting their point across. They are also very opinionated.
How does he score on the following points?
Cynicism: I have observed that 70% of Virgo men are cynical. Sometimes being cynical can be a good thing because it can bring forth the zing required to achieve success. It can bring out the best in you. If used correctly, cynicism can be a great motivator. Somehow most Virgo men have the tact to use it positively. The flipside is given a situation of dispute/disagreement their cynical side gets them into awkward situations.
Suspicion: A Virgo man on suspicion… yes and no. ‘Yes’ because he is suspicious when it comes to his career and achievements and ‘no’ because he isn’t suspicious about his relationships. He is possessive about his achievements and personal belongings. With his work and people related to work, he is forever on his guard, especially regarding money matters. Regarding his relationships he displays a secure and non-caring attitude. He is not likely to be suspicious except when given a reason to doubt.
Jealousy: A definite YES! A Virgo man can be jealous and very easily so. If at work or business his direct competition scores over him, our man can go green with envy. He finds it difficult to stand someone else’s success, if that person is in the same field of work. The reason for this… he thinks he deserves it more than the next man. On relationship front, he can be extremely jealous if his girlfriend or wife displays interest in another man.
What does a Virgo man want from life?
Well, this question cannot be answered in a word or two as the list of his desires is endless. Not only does he want everything from life, he also wants to be good at everything he does… the best in the industry or field as they say. Definitely not one to be satisfied with an ordinary life, he is perceptive enough to make do with low standards while he is struggling. But he has the girth and determination to achieve his targets. And a quality life is one of his targets.
What is his characteristic weakness?
Although I have mentioned his characteristic weakness earlier, I would like to elaborate on it here. His chief shortcoming is his disability to create and maintain relationships. He avoids people generally and is not particular about keeping up friends and acquaintances. Yet he is dependent on them for one thing or the other. This habit makes him come across as selfish and self-centered. And who isn’t sensitive to such behaviour?
What is his approach to life?
A Virgo man is not very realistic. But he is practical enough to know that life is full of ups and downs and since he likes new challenges his pragmatism is of great use to him. On an emotional level he is rather partial… not so emotional about others and quite emotional about himself. He is also sentimental.
Given his ambitiousness, a Virgo man is quite a dreamer. He believes in dreaming big and achieving big. He is fine with someone else taking the lead, but only till he learns the tricks of the trade. From there on he would prefer being the ultimate leader.
How is he when in love?
Just like how he is on any regular day. There is no difference between a Virgo man in love and a Virgo man not in love. Like I said before he finds it difficult to emote and even when in love, you will not find anything lover-like in his behaviour. Also he is a hardcore practical man… the proverbial man of the world so nothing he does is for the sake of sentiments and emotions. If you are expecting scented love letters and sweet nothings from your lover… you are clearly with the wrong man.
Maintaining a love relationship with a Virgo man is like being in a chemistry lab – everything has to be mixed in the right way in the right amount. Otherwise fireworks are in order! To get the best out of your Virgo man you have to maintain the right amount of closeness and the right amount of distance with him. He wants to be loved but not overburdened with it. Overt display of emotions can turn him off, so keep everything subtle.
When dating a Virgo man, you should…
… make the first move. And if you think it sounds un-ladylike or needy you can steer away from the Virgo guy. If you are waiting for him to ask you out, chances are it won’t happen for a long long time.
Before dating a Virgo man you need to learn certain lessons about this guy and his nature. While he is a funny and intelligent friend and a wonderful companion, with dating he sort of breaks all the rules. Romantic in his own peculiar way, he can re-define the role of a Romeo, if not the term ‘love’ itself. In a word, expect the unexpected while dating a Virgo guy.
Lesson one: He won’t chase you no matter how beautiful, intelligent or rich you are. Although he appreciates these qualities in a woman, he always thinks there are plenty of girls out there for him and he won’t take much effort at convincing you to date him.
Lesson two: His serious expression and un-emotional stance is a façade. He is basically insecure about getting hurt and therefore limits the amount of true emotions on display. But deep down, he is sensitive and loveable. Don’t get fooled with his unenthusiastic response to your advances.
Who can best deal with the secretive and cautious nature of the Virgo man? Which woman amongst the zodiac is perceptive enough to understand the true depth of his emotions? While a lot would depend on individual circumstances, there are certain personality traits that can help us predict the compatibility quotient of a Virgo man with women from different signs. Let’s find out how.
Virgo man and…
Aries woman: 7/10. This combination can work effectively if the Arian learns to keep her adventurous streak in check. She would also need to put up with the Virgo man’s secrecy and emotional detachment. But she has the verve and spirit to earn the respect and love of the Virgo man.
Taurus woman: 8/10. The Taurean practicality would appeal to the pragmatic Virgo male. Since both are dependable, they would get along well. Moreover, the Taurean passion would help the Virgo guy be more romantic and vocal about his love.
Gemini woman: 7/10. The Gemini woman has many qualities that the Virgo would admire, like intelligence and good conversational skills. But it would be important to make this mutual admiration last in the long run.
Cancer woman: 9/10. A ‘well-baked’ relationship this one! The Cancerian has apt culinary and housekeeping skills to have a beautiful home and a delicious spread for the Virgo man. Moreover, both are sincere and romantic enough to keep the love fires going for a long time.
Leo woman: 4/10. Too many compromises can suck the charm out of this relationship. While her passion can attract the Virgo guy initially, the Leo girl’s constant need for attention is too much for him to take, neither is she adjusting enough to get along with him in a long term relationship.
Virgo woman: 5/10. This relationship can go either way. While both are practical and sincere, they are too demanding of each other. The relationship can also get quite monotonous. But with proper efforts, it can be made to last.
Libra woman: 5/10. A difficult match! A lot of hard work will be required to make this combination a success, mostly from the Libran. She will have to counter his cynicism with her optimism, his detachment with her affection and his criticizing nature with her patience. This relationship can demand a lot of compromises from the Libra woman.
Scorpio woman: 9/10. An excellent combination! Both are smart, intelligent and very often good looking. They would admire each other for these qualities. The Virgo man will let the Scorpion take the lead on the home front, while he would impress her with his perfectionism.
Sagittarius woman: 6/10: This relationship can be a strain due to the basic difference between the temperaments of these two. She is an extrovert while he is a reserved person. Her wild nature can go against the conservative thinking of the Virgo guy.
Capricorn woman: 7/10: This combination has all the qualities of a successful relationship. The Capricorn woman has warmth and affection which will help the Virgo man open up with his emotions, while he is dependable enough to give her the security she needs. But he would have to curb his roving eyes to make her feel secure and gain her trust. Also the reassurance of love that a Capricorn woman needs is something this man may not be able to provide.
Aquarius woman: 6/10: With right amount of adjustments, this relationship can work fantastically. She can counter his pessimism with her optimism and take his emotional needs in her stride. They would also please each other on an intellectual level.
Pisces woman: 6/10: The Virgo man would be quite at sea about how to handle the sensitive Piscean. While the Pisces woman will not comprehend his emotional detachment, the Virgo male will find her too needy and pushy for comfort. But if he provides her with the comforts of life and display love (emotion) once in a while, it might just work out well for both.
by Chetan D Narain
ChiboyChuks Opinion: Please a Virgo Man is best matched with a Cancer Woman or Scorpio Woman... believe me, its real.
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