Wednesday, 3 October 2012
A MUST READ!!! Confessions Of A Married Woman
I met this guy in 2001 when I was writing WAEC, his name is GuyA. We fell in love. “He was everything a woman would ask for; he is fair, handsome, intelligent and God fearing, he loved me so much, he shared the little he had with me, he was willing to do anything I ask for though he didn’t have much because he was still in second year at university of Nigeria, Enugu campus.
“He did everything possible for me to gain admission into the university. I eventually gained admission in 2003 at Enugu State University of Science and Technology and graduated in 2007. I don’t know what came over me. I had a fling with this guy named GuyB. Though I never loved him, but I became pregnant for him. I didn’t know what to do, but terminating the pregnancy was not an option.
I didn’t want to lose GuyA. It was as if my world has crumbled. I didn’t tell anybody not even my best friend because I never could tell what would happen if I did. I made a smart move by telling GuyA that I was pregnant for him. Of course, he believed me because he trusted me so much but I betrayed his love for me.
He came to see my people, though my parents are dead. I eventually put to bed, a baby girl. This was in 2008. Do you know what my baby was exactly the carbon copy of GuyB, the guy I had a fling with? I was not surprise because I knew the pregnancy wasn’t GuyA’s but I thought the baby would’ve resembled me.
Of course, I was wrong. GuyA accepted us even when he knew the baby does not look like him or me. Ever since, I have been dying in silence. My conscience kept killing me. At a point, I hated my own child seeing a picture of another man in her.
My husband, GuyA loved her so much more than anything. In 2010, I had another baby boy for my husband. My joy knew no bounds. I was really happy, my husband was happy as well. In 2012, I had another baby boy for my husband, GuyA. Even at that, he loved my daughter more than his two biological sons.
At a point, I became jealous but what can I do. I just couldn’t bear it any more so I decided to give my life to Christ and beg God for forgiveness which I know he has done. This I did because I couldn’t continue to die in silence. It was now for me to confess to my husband but how would I achieve that without breaking my home?
I didn’t want to loose my home, I loved my husband and my kids. “He is a wonderful man but I betrayed him. I prayed and asked God to give me the strength to confess to him… On the set day, I first called him on phone to ask him if he would ever forgive me. He asked what I meant by that. He asked if I was alright and I said yes.
He hanged up on me. I cried like a baby. When he came back from work that same day, I served him his dinner. After that, I went with him in the room and told him to forgive me that he should not punish our daughter for what she does not know about but punish me. He Already Knew That He Is Not The Father Of Our Daughter: “He asked again what I meant by that. I narrated everything that transpired between GuyB and I.
To my greatest surprise, he dropped a bombshell. He said he knew all these years that he was not the biological father of our 4-year old daughter. I asked him if he knew about it and didn’t bother to ask me? He said that he knew that someday I was going to tell him but he never knew it would come this soon. It was as if the ground should open and swallow me.
I was so ashamed of my self that I bowed my face in tears but he cuddled me and said he’d forgiven me long ago. He said that we pray every day OUR FATHER FORGIVE US OUR SINS AS WE FORGIVE THOSE TRESPASS AGAINST US, why won’t he forgive me? “He said no one is perfect and that we make mistakes in life.
He said that I was a nice person and that we have been through a lot in life. So, he cannot abandon me now that I needed him most. He told me that he could possibly throw me out so that people will laugh at me but he has always loved me. “As for my daughter, as far as he is concerned, she is his daughter.
He’s has always seen her as one and that he will always love us. I was short of words, all I could do was to cry and thank him and thank God for the kind of man he has given me because I know that no man would take that from any woman no matter what except by the special grace of God.
I am now a happy person and I have given my life to Jesus Christ. We must learn how to confess our sins no matter what so that Satan will be put to shame and as well learn how to forgive. We now live in the UK. I also had my two boys in the UK.